Ten Steps to Attract Your Ideal Relationship, Part 2

Last week I revealed the first five of ten steps to attract your ideal relationship. To review, please click here.

Today you'll learn the final five steps. You don't have to take these steps. You are welcome to read them once and forget about them; let them be another lost piece of information.

However, as you read over these steps keep in mind that everyone who has created a successful, loving relationship has taken them. For some people these steps are intuitive, taken automatically. For most of us they need to be deliberately taken.

    6. Redefine Socializing
    The sixth step in being able to attract and create your ideal relationship is redefining why and how you socialize. Chances are you have participated in many social situations simply as a way to meet available partners. And chances are that you were either not very successful, or that the relationships formed this way crumbled quickly.

    My advice may seem to be a paradox; if you want to meet your ideal partner, stop looking for her or him. Socialize as a way to create a rich, satisfying life and as a way to create a supportive, vibrant community. Be social to enhance your life and not to look for a partner. When you life works and you are happy, the right partner will be drawn to you.

    7. Develop a Life Vision
    Focus on creating the kind of life you want. Your ideal partner is just around the corner of your ideal life.

    What is your ideal life? Where do you want to live? What do you want to do for a living? How much money do you want to make? What do you want to contribute to the world?

    The key to creating your ideal life is to make yourself happy now and to set yourself up to be happy in the future, regardless of whether or not you are in a relationship.

    8. Develop New Relationship Patterns
    In order to attract your ideal relationship, you need to develop new relationship patterns to replace your old ineffective patterns.

    The essence of your new relationship patterns is your ability to do the following six things:

    • See people for who they are and not for who you want them to be or who you are afraid they are.
    • Recognize your attraction to people, understand why you are attracted to them and have a choice in what you will do about it.
    • Know what you need and be able to assess if a potential partner is able and willing to meet your needs.
    • Know and respect your boundaries and communicate when they are crossed or endangered.
    • Be clear about your definition of an ideal relationship and be able to assess if a potential partner has the capacity to co-create that kind of relationship with you.
    • Have a rich and satisfying social life, one where your needs for companionship are well met.

    9. Strengthen Faith
    The ninth step in being able to attract and create your ideal relationship is strengthening your faith -- your relationship with the universal source.

    It is guaranteed that at one point or another in this process of attracting your ideal relationship you will feel as if everything you have done has produced absolutely no results. Faith will be the one thing you will have to count on.

    Having faith will keep you from going back to old behaviors in an effort to speed up results.

    How do you strengthen faith and build a relationship with the universal source? Each person's path is his or her own. Find yours.

    10. Develop a New Set of Dating Behaviors
    The final step toward attracting and creating your ideal relationship is about learning how to begin a relationship once you have attracted your ideal partner.

    How you and your partner interact with each other at the beginning of your relationship will lay the foundation for how you relate to each other for the duration. It will either guarantee a lifetime partnership or a breakup.

    The essence of co-creating a lifetime partnership is to move slow and spend quality time interacting in person. Phone and email are not the same. Most importantly, build a relationship on a foundation of 100% honesty. A relationship built on such a foundation has the potential to last a lifetime.

Your Relationship Coach,
Rinatta Paries

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