Ways to Blow It in a Relationship
What do you do when
you've attracted a lovely person into your life and now you're terrified you're
going to blow it? Or, terrified it's going to end?
Arm yourself with the
following strategies, and you're sure to blow it in a relationship right from
If you want some insurance
that your new relationship has every chance of making it, be…
- Assume the person
is your soul mate immediately upon meeting or shortly thereafter. Look for
signs that faith has brought you together and be amazed by the correlations
in your lives.
- Forget about your
life, your friends, your self-care. When you have a soul mate, why would
you need a life outside of the relationship?
- Reveal everything,
and test your partner with your worst behavior. Let it all hang out. After
all, if this is truly your soul mate, he or she will love you no matter
- Have sex right away.
If you are meant to be together for a lifetime, you might as well get started
on the fun part right away.
- Ignore anything about
your partner that does not mesh with your values, lifestyle, or belief system.
True love can conquer such insignificant differences.
- Do lots of drama
together. Job, family, and life crises are great ways to establish a relationship
and test whether or not you are meant to be together.
- Spend as much time
together as possible. When it's true love, you can't bear to let your partner
out of your sight.
- Ignore behavior that
crosses your boundaries or hurts your feelings. It's true love, so it's
- Lavish a huge amount
of attention on your partner or expect a huge amount of attention to be
lavished on you. How else would you act if you finally found your soul mate?
- Push the relationship
forward and demand that it go deeper, in spite of where your partner is
emotionally. You have the right to have the relationship be exactly how
you want it to be and your soul mate owes you that.
On the other hand, your
relationship may end no matter what you do. But being in fear it will end actually
makes the end more likely. To eradicate this fear, let go of the attachment
that the person you are with be the right person. Simply be with him
or her one day at a time.
- Clear about your
needs and boundaries
- A good listener
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